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Is There More Risk In Online Relationships Verse Offline?

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Some would immediately say there would be more risk in an online relationship; however, isn’t is just as easy to create a false identity or say you are someone else offline as it is online? But you can also meet someone extremely genuine and true both online and offline. So why are people so feared of the online relationships? Is because we don’t know exactly what is on the other side of the computer screen?

More and more people are hearing about how they met the love of their life or their soul mate online. I think it’s great for people to connect and live happily ever after; however, I personally fear the possibility of deception on the Internet. From thePsychology Today article, “Cyberspace: Love Online,” author Hara Estroff Marano she says:

“Indeed, online relationships can be unusually seductive. They are readily accessible, they move very quickly, and under the cloak of anonymity, they make it easy for people to reveal a great deal about themselves… And while cyber relationships can be more sincere and open than offline relationships, they also leave a great deal of room fordeception, although online relationships are marked more bydreams than deception.”

I have never personally gotten involved in an online relationship and I don’t think I ever will. I would have too much fear of being deceived. I personally would much rather go out and meet people offline and face-to-face. Then if it  turned out to be a long distance relationship I could use the Internet as a way to maintain that relationship.

I don’t think there is more risk online verse offline because the possibility of rejection still exists in both worlds. It seems that with the numerous social networking websites, chat rooms, and dating/match websites that a lot of people are finding their perfect match online. Furthermore, that these sites are safe and have built in precautions. With high success rates it’s another alternative for individuals to try.

It is great for everyone to find their soul mate whether that be offline or online. In the end individuals need to think twice about what they post and protect themselves from the dangers online, and this guideline goes for any activity individuals partake in online.

Sources- Cyberspace: Love Online

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Maybe my Dad is more of a Digital Native then I Thought

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Last Saturday my family and I were in the car driving home from my cousin’s surprise party in Connecticut, during the about two hour car ride my Dad and I got consumed in a conversation starting with iPads and going through every opinion about Technology, digital media, email, talking about this class, and how he uses technology for work.

Surprisingly, my Dad and I were on the same page and agreed with each other on a lot. Most likely because both of us use the internet and technology a lot in our daily lives. He uses it for work as a real estate agent and I mainly use it for school and different organizations I am involved it. I honestly wish I could have recorded this conversation like an Interview to post on this blog and be able to truly show the conversation my Dad and I had because it was really intriguing to me.

First my Dad and I both want iPads. We know it will safe the amount of printing costs we both have between school and work. It is easily portable and the numerous applications available make it a great tool for a student and for a real estate agent, but mainly because of the printing expenses it would safe.

My Dad has to print up numerous contracts and legal documents daily; however, with the ability to access PDFs on the iPad and vendors now formatting iPads for the use in real estate my Dad would be able to have the contracts electronically signed and emailed to all the necessary parties. He said he spends at least one-hundred dollars a month on printing & faxing expenses. And I can believe it because this past year I spent close to one-hundred and fifty dollars on printing expenses for school between paper, ink, and printing in the on campus library.

Then the conversation turned to about email, phone calls, and texting. We talked about the appropriate time lines for people to return texts, emails, or phone calls and furthermore how some people want an instantaneous response. We agreed that texting should have an almost instant response back and that phone calls or emails should have a response within 24 hours. In today’s society I am truly surprised that there are people that do not check their email daily.

Overall, this conversation showed me that my Dad is more of a digital native and savy with technology then I thought. And it was great to see that we had a lot of common interests, uses, and opinions about technology and the way our society uses different tools. This showed me that the gap of technology knowledge or use between generations is slowly closing down because more people are using technology for work and personal reasons.

Pinterest- Now It’s All About Pinning Your Interests

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The latest craze I have been swept into is Pinterest and yes like every other social networking website they all link together one-way or another. A Pinterest account can be showcased from Facebook and Twitter. While searching on the Internet for information about this latest social media interest I found the WordPress blog TechCrunch that will written by Josh Constine. Through this blog I learned:

“Pinterest just hit 11.7 million unique monthly U.S. visitors, crossing the 10 million mark faster than any other standalone site in history….Who’s propelling its rise? 18-34 year old upper income women from the American heartland. Maybe we should call it blow-dryer growth.” (http://techcrunch.com/2012/02/07/pinterest-monthly-uniques/).

For those who are really unsure what Pinterest really is, it is a place where users look at thousands of pictures or posts within different categories like Women’s Apparel, Hair & Beauty, Education, Wedding & Events, Holidays, etc. Each user is sent an invitation to their email from a current user allowing them to join the website and begin “Pinning.”

When I joined Pinterest a friend invited me via email because I couldn’t just go to Pinterest.com and sign up for an account. Why did I have to be invited? I still don’t understand why the website has this process, and I never truly realized how addicting this website is. How could one look at pictures for so long?

Pinterst has become a website that is more then just pictures. It is a place to post your ideas, share ideas, and find ideas of different things to do. This website has inspired me to complete different t-shirt crafts, shown me different ways to do my nails, and different outfits that I want to invest in. Pinterest has become a website for the consumer. The website makes things a click away to find more information about where to buy items or to see directions to make something.

Like Constine stated in his article I too have begun spending more time on Pinterest then any other social networking site I am apart of. “According to comScore, the average Pinterest user spend 98 minutes per month on the site, compared to 2.5 hours on Tumblr, and 7 hours on Facebook,” (Constine). It has become absolutely insane! Now when I log onto my computer I open Facebook, Twitter, Gmail, and now my Pinterest as well.

On m Pinterst I have 86 Followers and I am following 96. I have 11 Boards I am “Pinning” to, 608 Pins, and 545 likes. And I have had my Pinterest since March and my activity and follwing has grown faster than my Twitter, which I have had for almost 4 years. It is amazing how a new social networking website is created and makes such an impact in such a short amount of time.

Happy Pinning!

Sources: http://techcrunch.com/2012/02/07/pinterest-monthly-uniques/

 

Everyone is Pointing Fingers At Who Should Take Charge with Cyberbullying…

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A lot of people know that cyberbullying is happening, but not a lot of people are taking it into their own hands and dealing with it. Yes, there are people who do take a stand but it has not be substantial enough were incidents are becoming fewer. If parents, schools, and professionals who work with social networking sites teamed together in campaigns against cyberbullying users would see a consistent message on how it is wrong to treat others that way.

In the article from teacherweb.com, “How Should Facebook and Myspace Handle Cyberbullying,” author Emily Bazelon describes how false accusations of cyberberbullying changed an individual’s life. The accusations began when his Facebook page was reported for harassment; however, this individual didn’t even have a Facebook page.

Furthermore, Bazelon describes how the individual and parents were never given answers on who actually created this fake Facebook. This showed me how you really can never trust who the person is behind the Facebook page because anyone can upload pictures of someone, create a profile, and be acting like someone else on the Internet.

Throughout this article Bazelon compared how MySpace and Facebook each handle cyberbullying issues. After reading the article I am sort of confused why MySpace has the rep it does because it seemed like this website takes this bullying more serious and takes greater steps into action than Facebook.

Then Facebook doesn’t seem to be actually admitting what is actually going on with cyberbullying or abusive use on the web because once it is reported they complete a small investigation and then just delete the page. It seems like Facebook is sweeping the bug under the rug and forgetting about the situation.

Instead of schools, parents, and social networking sites pointing fingers in the opposite direction I think that all three areas need to work together to control the amount of cyberbullying happening and implementing punishments. Bazelon wrote good arguments on how situations are and are not being handled; furthermore, was being realistic about the internet and today’s generation of users.

Not So Mutual Facebook Friends

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While scrolling around on the Web I found the article, “Facebook’s Privacy Trainwrek,” by Danah Boyd, which was published by Sage Publications in 2008. I agreed with everything Boyd stated about Facebook, News Feed, and the relationships we create or think we create on Facebook. Yes, I am a Facebook user and yes I say that I use Facebook to stay connected with friends. But, by “friends” I don’t mean the ones I accept on Facebook I mean the ones I was friends with before I was on Facebook.

First Boyd explains to readers that the Facebook News Feed is structured in the same structure of a blog with information being displayed in “reverse chronological order” or the newest information is posted at the top. Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook Creator) communicated to the users about the News Feed for Facebook through his blog. Similar coincidence that the Facebook creator uses a blog? I don’t think so.

Intrapersonal relationships can be created online and offline, but is it always a mutual friendship? I mean I surely have numerous Facebook Friends who I have hardly ever talked to, don’t keep up with offline, and don’t have their phone number.

In my Intro to Writing Arts class, one of my peers said that she only keeps Facebook Friends that she has their phone number to call them up or talk to them off of the internet, and I feel that is a great rule to follow when involving yourself online.

Boyd further describes how Facebook relationships are not always mutual, yet we may feel like we know one of our “Friends” really well because of their frequent posts and information from Facebook.

In one scenario Boyd describes how an individual follows their crush on Facebook and feels that they know things about them like interests, birthday, photos, who they are friends with, etc. When in fact the individual has just memorized their Facebook page and really has no relationship with their crush and may not even know they exist.

This is what users call Facebook Stalkers or as I have called them: Not so mutual friends.

In Boyd’s article he described different scenarios around the Facebook News Feed that came out on September 5th, 2006 (Boyd, 2). After the publication of the News Feed Facebook put out privacy settings because now the information users put on the Web 2.0 was popping up on everyone’s News Fed and the information was now far more assessable to Friends then before.

I have every Facebook privacy setting set because I don’t want users who aren’t my Friends to look at my information and I don’t want everyone who I am Friends with to see every picture, status, likes, wall post, or comment I make. Facebook tells too much information that not everyone wants to know, and there are those people that you feel you know or keep in touch with because of their activity on Facebook.

Most of my Facebook friends are friends offline and online with mutual relationships, and if they aren’t a mutual friend I have been slowly working on deleting those not so mutual Facebook Friends.

Why Do I Tweet?

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Today, Twitter has over 140 million uses and over 340 million tweets are posted daily (Sternberg). The population includes average people to top charting celebrities of all ages. My twitter has tracked my college career since I joined the tweeting community during my freshman year of college in the fall of 2009. I joined Twitter because all of my new friends in college had one and were forming intrapersonal relationships on the web through Twitter, so I wanted to be apart of the discourse community where we talked about school, weekends, and other random topics.

I feel that the relationships of my followers and who I am following is an extension of the relationships we have off the internet; furthermore, it is a nice way to stay updated on news, see what my friends are doing, and to interact with them on the internet. I am on Twitter because I enjoy tweeting and reading other tweets from the users I follow.

There are many friends on Twitter I have lost touch with since high school ended or don’t talk to everyday, and having a conversation on through tweets is an informal and easy way to keep up to date on each others life from various locations. These interactions would not be possible without Twitter or other social networking websites, but because of the online interactions relationships off the Internet are able to stay connected. There is no relationship developed with the celebrities that I follow, and I understand that just because I follow them on twitter does not mean we have a developing relationship.

Sometimes Twitter users, myself included, tweet too much or things that really don’t matter within the discourse community. But, those 140 characters do mean a lot to that particular user; therefore, I try to tweet with meaning but I allow myself the pointless tweets about what I had for lunch or how bored I am because Twitter is a way for users to express themselves. However, Twitter has began to expand farther than 140 characters because people link their tweets to blogs, websites, pictures, Facebook, etc.

Overall, I use Twitter to post random thoughts, quotes, moments, or photos that come up with throughout the day. I link to other social networking sites through tweets and vise versa. But, the main reason I joined Twitter was because everyone else was doing it. In the beginning I didn’t understand the point of the 140 characters or why I would tweet daily, however in the end I fully enjoy using Twitter on a daily basis.

Sources:

The Twitter Aftershock for Digital Media